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“His Daddy Was By Our Facet”: Child’s Heartbreaking Start Coincidence

Grace Sotolongo-Alvarez and her husband, Gabriel, had a fairytale life. They have been head over heels in love, married with two kids – Gianna and Gracie – and a child on the way in which. Grace at all times needed 4 kids however Gabriel was set on three. Grace knew in some unspecified time in the future she would have the ability to persuade him to go for Child #4 however a horrible beginning coincidence modified all of that.

Birth coincidence as baby born same time as father dies
Grace and Gabriel with their daughters, Gianna and Gracie. Supply: Fb

Gone right away

At 38 weeks pregnant with their third baby, a boy, Grace felt like she was on high of the world.

We have been dwelling the whole lot we had prayed and wished for. Our enterprise was beginning to choose up and Gabriel was VP of his firm and thriving within the building trade. Gianna was doing nice in her first yr of center college and our spunky 5-year-old was doing wonderful in PreK and her first yr in a giant child college. The whole lot was nice and we have been making all the plans for our little boy’s arrival,” Grace shared with Love What Issues. 

1:05 pm

One week earlier than Grace’s deliberate C-section, her world was flipped the other way up. Gabriel headed to work as regular and, as common, Grace contacted him round 10:30 am for his or her day by day chat.

“I gave him a protracted to-do record we wanted to perform in only a week, earlier than my c-section, and he simply lovingly agreed to the whole lot.”

She then texted him at 1:04 pm and heard nothing again.

“I discovered it odd as a result of he at all times answered fairly shortly however I knew he had a busy work day and needed to be at totally different job websites, so I went on with my day.”

Tragic birth coincidence
Gabriel was so excited to satisfy his first son. Supply: Love What Issues

Grace went to select her daughter up from college and, whereas within the college pick-up line, acquired a cellphone name from one in every of her associates, asking about Gabriel’s accident.

She didn’t know what the buddy was speaking about.

Grace contacted her husband’s boss and, the second he answered the cellphone, she knew one thing was fallacious. Nobody instructed Grace that her husband had died at 1:05 pm that day, only one minute after she texted him. However she knew.

Gabriel and Grace's birth story
Supply: Fb

He died immediately

By way of a sea of emotion, Grace was in a position to acquire her daughter and drive her to her sister’s home earlier than receiving affirmation that her loving husband had been in a building accident. He died immediately at 1:05 pm when a bit of equipment fell on him.

“To at the present time, OSHA (Occupational Security and Well being Administration of america Division of Labor) has not accomplished their report, and subsequently, 7.5 months after his loss of life, we nonetheless do not need actual solutions as to why this machine fell, injured one other employee, and immediately killed my husband.”

One week earlier than welcoming her son, she was compelled to say goodbye to her husband. She was additionally compelled to interrupt the information to Gabriel’s two women.

Telling my daughter and seeing her change from this harmless 5-year-old who was at all times laughing and fooling around to slightly lady whose eyes not lit up and whose smile would simply not come out is without doubt one of the most heartbreaking issues you may expertise as a mum or dad.”

The grief was overwhelming as Grace realised she can be welcoming her son alone. However she remained sturdy and centered on preserving her child protected till his deliberate C-section.

Tragic beginning coincidence: Child born at identical time as dad’s loss of life

On November 1st, one week after his dad’s loss of life, at precisely 1:05 pm, Grace welcomed her son, Gabriel Tomas into the world.

“My son was born with a number of indicators that his daddy was by our aspect at each second. He was born at 1:05 p.m., the very same time as his father’s loss of life. I imagine his father met him in Heaven and carried him earlier than I did. He bodily seems identical to his daddy and the look in his eyes is his daddy’s identical stare.” 

By way of her grief, Grace discovered energy in sharing her story and speaking concerning the man she beloved and the daddy of her kids.

Gabriel and Grace's tragic birth coincidence
Supply: Love What Issues

 I’m at some extent in my life the place I’m married but I not belong to a few. I’m one in every of my children’ dad and mom but I’m alone. I not solely need to run a enterprise on my own, elevate our youngsters on my own, run a family on my own, and make all types of inauspicious choices on my own, however now I even have to seek out my id once more. That is the loneliest journey, even when there are 100 folks round.”

She additionally shares her story to assist others going by one thing comparable.

“I need different grieving wives/spouses (I hate that different W phrase with which they describe us) to know that it’s okay to do issues at your tempo and at your timing. It’s okay to normalise grief in an age-appropriate means to your kids. It’s okay to set wholesome boundaries and switch away assist if it makes you uncomfortable. It’s okay to cry along with your children and it’s okay to be each sturdy and weak.

Please don’t rush us to maneuver on as a result of we’re nonetheless dwelling on the final day our lives have been entire and in a state of confusion, and it’s regular. It gained’t final eternally however it’s regular.  I plan on dwelling life at my tempo, elevating our kids as we deliberate, and turning my ache into objective with my writing in hopes of serving to others in grief (and serving to their households and associates to higher perceive them).”

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